Wednesday, January 2, 2013

IWSG Beginning a new year



It’s the first Wednesday of the month, which means it’s time to talk about insecurities. Before I do that, I’d like to thank Alex Cavanaugh for hosting this wonderful meme. If you'd like to learn more about it, just click on his name.


Happy New Year! I hope you had an amazing holiday season!

The great thing about a new year is that we get a chance to start fresh, set new goals, and reflect on our accomplishments. 2012 was a good year for me, and I’m hoping 2013 is even better. This would probably be a perfect time to make the New Year’s resolution that in 2013 I’m not going to be insecure. Sounds great, doesn't it? But I know that isn't a realistic goal. After all, no one sets out to be insecure. It just sort of happens.

So in 2013 I vow to use my insecurities to help me work harder. I’m going to try to spin them into something good. This has worked for me before. For example, when I lacked confidence in my writing, I took courses and attended conferences to help me improve my craft. When I feel there’s something lacking in a novel I’m working on, I reach out to my critique partners and beta readers for advice. By doing this I've been able to use my insecurities to become a better writer. So, if I start to obsess over the things I’m insecure about, I’m going to try to remember to hit pause and to find a way to turn that insecurity into something positive.

And if by chance that doesn't work, well chocolate always helps. J

How do you deal with your insecurities?

16 comments:

  1. Chocolate. Definitely chocolate.

    Best of luck in 2013. It sounds as though you're on the right path.

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  2. Hello from IWSG...I like how you're taking proactive measures to deal with your insecurities. Yay for chocolate therapy! May 2013 be a good writing year for you!

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  3. Chocolate, hot chocolate and an episode of the vampire diaries always makes me feel better... But I like the way you try to improve any weaknesses as opposed to avoid them.

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  4. I like the way you think. We can dwell in our insecurities or we can fight to defeat them. Good for you! Happy New Year!

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  5. There you go - put a positive spin on it and make it work for you!

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  6. Wine helps too - so thank you for the bottle you gave me. :) It was delish, btw.

    This is a very good way to look at it - insecurities are a great incentive to make ourselves better. If we went around succeeding all the time, we'd never really grow, would we?

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  7. What would we do without chocolate? ;)

    Zed, I'm with you on the Vampire Diaries. I love that show and watching it always gets me in the mood to write.

    Glad the wine was good, Nicki! Wine is second only to chocolate. :)

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  8. Your goal for insecure writers support group is not to be insecure? LMAO! ;-) I like your goal of problem solving by taking action when there's an insecurity. Do you get Savvy Author emails? I find myself learning some things about writing (when I have time to read them of course!)

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  9. Love your attitude and idea about using your insecurities to become a better writer! Nice post!

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  10. Hi, Cherie,

    Nice to meet you and HAPPY NEW YEAR! New follower here.

    What a terrific way to see things. Turning a negative into a positive is challenging and VERY gratifying. You are on top of it and that's the way to be.

    Wishing you the very best for 2013....

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  11. Hi Jen. I'll have to check out Savvy Author.

    Thanks Tyrean and Michael :)

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  12. The Savvy Author has some really good stuff to offer. I've signed up las year. Best wishes to you and yours for 2013!

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  13. Chocolate sounds like a good choice to me!
    Especially considering I recently discovered the best chocolate in the world!

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  14. Reminding myself that *everyone* has insecurities helps as much as anything! :D

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  15. Like someone else said, insecurities are what keep us humble and seeking to learn. They're not all bad. :)

    Thanks for visiting my blog.
    IWSG #137 until Alex culls the list again.

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  16. What a great way to approach the new year. Face your insecurities and use them to your advantage.
    Happy 2013!

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